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Parent Support for Loss of a Premature Infant

Meet Nicole, Preemie Parent Mentor

Our little boy, Kade was born at just 20 weeks gestation. He was 9.5oz and 9.5 inches long. He was so tiny, but he was absolutely perfect in every way. Although his life only lasted 99 minutes, we cherished every moment he was with us. We loved on him, gave him kisses on his tiny forehead, held his hand, and tried to let those precious moments soak in because we knew they wouldn’t last much longer. Our baby boy knew nothing but love during his short time here on earth

Since Kade passed, we have found that some days are better than others. I still have moments that seem to knock the wind out of me. To this day, I remember exactly how he looked, how he felt when I kissed his forehead, and how his little hand was so small that it wrapped around just one of my fingers. As the months have gone by, I have learned that the pain of losing a baby will never go away. Instead, I have just learned how to live with it. I have learned what my heart can handle.

My mission is to help other moms and dads who have experienced this type of loss. It’s hard for others who haven’t lost a child to understand how this feels. I want to support grieving parents and help them navigate this journey of grief and loss. If you have ever lost a child in pregnancy or in infancy, you are not alone. You are loved. You are supported. You have an army of other grieving parents praying for you. If you don’t know anyone personally that has been through this, I will be that person for you.

Losing a Premature Baby

Having to say goodbye to a preemie far too soon is a tragedy that no parent should ever have to face, but sadly loss is a part of the prematurity journey, too. Nothing can ever ease the pain of losing a child but even so, many organizations, websites, and groups exist to help moms and dads cope.