This week, the reality of our NICU stay hit me.
My best friend’s sister had her baby at 22 weeks in her pregnancy. Unfortunately, little Nova did not make it. He fought hard for 2 days before he got his wings. My heart broke for my best friend and her family. I knew what it was like to come home with my little one after 47 days, but I have no idea what it must be like to not bring my little one home at all or having to make the hard choice to pull him off life support. I can only imagine what her or anyone else who has ever lost his or her little one goes through.
But I can say this: My heart breaks for you. I pray that God will comfort and hold you as you walk through this journey in your life. The only thing I can think of that might help would be to locate a support group or talk to a counselor. Just find someone to talk to.
We had a miscarriage before we had Dusty. I thought the world was crashing down around me. I didn’t realize how much it had affected my marriage and most of my other relationships in my life. I finally connected with a counselor and talked through how much it was hurting my heart. I’m not going to say I still don’t think about that little one or cry because I miss them, but what I do know is that talking to someone about how I was feeling helped me to cope with the loss.
I really wish that there was something more that I could say to help or do to help anyone who has ever lost a child. But what I can do is listen.
For those of us who have not been through the type of loss my best friend’s sister is experiencing, we can be there for them. Hold them when they cry. Listen to them when they vent or get mad. Just be there for them. There isn’t much a person can say or do to make the pain go away other than be a friend to those who are hurting.
If you would like more information on little Nova or how you can help their family you can go to http://www.gofundme.com/c9slvs. I know they are really thankful for anything from prayers to donations.